As a male I am always very self-aware that I shouldn’t be talking about issues pertaining to female’s rights and how they should feel. This is not simply because of gender portrayal but an alignment with my view of if you do not belong to an ethnic minority group and had become a target for racial abuse or vilification, you cannot tell people racism does not exist.
The Harvey Weinstein situation and the subsequently unfolded events in Hollywood put a new spin to what is culturally and socially acceptable in our society. I personally believe sexual harassment is never acceptable but when we live in a society that the powerful retains rights to almost everything, and being the weak and lowly will only be portrayed as opportunists and liars, there aren’t a lot of outlet or options for the victims.
There were lots of debates on what is socially acceptable. Some men even argued that certain actions showed their appreciation of the opposite (or same in some cases) gender. Also there were also “degree of acceptability” for similar array of actions. Personally, I am a firm believer of if this is not something the other party wants to willingly participate, it is harassment, period. There is no grey areas or degree of severity for these kinds of actions. Sexual harassment does not have a PH scale for they are all acidic to the people, social groups, professions and the societies that they have impacts on. If we believe in the true values of freedom, anything that infringes on other people’s freedom, including the freedom of non-participation, is harassment.
Some people might argue my views as wussy or lefty, but it is not. In my opinion, this sits right in the middle of our moral and social compass. No one is more equal than others that’s how I see it.
I had several debates with different people on this issue and some, even females, argued that victims of these cases, by not calling out these predators when they happened, are themselves perpetrators of such behaviours. In all occasions I asked them, “Have you experienced it yourself within the same context?” The entertainment industry is a very relationship based industry. People in power in this industry knows it very well and so do new comers. I had been a new comer and I had been placed into such situation myself and I knew how those things impact you for life. You will never stop thinking about it whatever the outcome of the situation was. You might think you came out lucky and unscathed but the fact is the repercussion is real when you suddenly noticed work stopped or some people suddenly stopped answering your emails or calls after that incident, despite the same group of people were being extremely supportive and friendly before that. You felt alone and if you are not strong enough inside, you fall. I think that is the kind of understanding people need to have before they, both males and females, starting making comments such as, “Isn’t it too late to speak up now?” “Why now?” “Why do they allow this to happen to them?”
I personally think that it is great that people are united and trying to make changes. Changes for the better of the society is always good. Banding together provides the power it needs to make positive changes. But we must remember that changes must be applied to all equally instead of being stratified. The current movement is in full steam but if the actions are not applying to everyone equally, it will fail to implement the change it set out to do.
However at the same time, we should continue to maintain an open and fair attitude to whatever claims that were put forward, so we will not allow opportunists to ride the wave and take down the innocent. The beauty of democratic societies is “innocent till proved guilty” and I strongly believe that if the media wants to help change our society for the better, a strict neutrality should be adopted in their reporting, and that includes the application of fair and square headlines. Journalism should be about proactivity and neutrality, so they can inform the society in an unbiased manner.
Many people say actors or participants wearing black means nothing because it is just a bunch of lefties and attention seekers, well, seeking attention. But that doesn’t change the fact that something is being done, whether people saw them as relevant or not. It is a position, a gesture and a demonstration of determination for positive changes. At the end of the day if you know what you are doing and stick to the goal, whatever other people said does not matter.
There are lots of people who don’t want changes for the better but wanting to stick to their good old days. But the fact is that days might be old, they don’t necessarily all be good. I am forever a fan of a better society that moves closer to equality every day.